As for the rules on bumping, in the Support section, bumping is allowed once every 12 hours if no one responds. Modification development is the same but with 24 hours instead of 12. Bumping is disallowed everywhere else.
I fixed my issue. Are you running the server on linux? If so make sure you are not using open jdk 6. I was using all of my ram until I switched to open jdk 7. Now my server is actually sticking to the restraint in the startup script like it is supposed it!