You sound like you have trust issues. If you can't trust your girlfriend around other men, you probably shouldn't be dating.
The problem here is what if he has had bad experienced with a girl cheating on him in the past? I already mentioned it in this thread about my ex and her best friend, but what I didn't mention was that I've been cheated on before. With her being so close to this guy to the point where they leave each other little goofy messages (him calling her his "muffin"), I will definitely be worried and suspicious.
If someone has been cheated on before, they will always be weary of it happening again.
The problem here is what if he has had bad experienced with a girl cheating on him in the past? I already mentioned it in this thread about my ex and her best friend, but what I didn't mention was that I've been cheated on before. With her being so close to this guy to the point where they leave each other little goofy messages (him calling her his "muffin"), I will definitely be worried and suspicious.
If someone has been cheated on before, they will always be weary of it happening again.
I understand what an effect a bad relationship can have, but you have to overcome it, because your mistrust will pollute future relationships, and it isn't fair to your partner.
If she has no interest in him then I don't see why you shouldn't let her hang out with him. If she has explicitly said that she doesn't want to sleep with him, respect the fact that she has other male friends.
If he tries to make a physical move, i.e. tries to kiss her or something, I'd say that's pretty solid ground to confront him and - if she doesn't resist - her.
Basically, don't do anything rash, don't let it get to you, if he does try to take it further confront him and him directly.
Anyone that has a girlfriend would obviously be worried when some guy drives their girlfriend around every day and makes obvious facebook posts about how he wants to be with her.
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Anyone that has a girlfriend would obviously be worried when some guy drives their girlfriend around every day and makes obvious facebook posts about how he wants to be with her.
Same thing with a girl. If a girl's boyfriend is being driven around every day by an attractive female, or, in another scenario, an attractive female is the boyfriend's boss and she makes excuses to be around him, such as "company meetings/dinners", etc, then it's justified to be paranoid.
Being jealous and paranoid about these things is extremely common. How many girls get jealous and upset if their boyfriend is talking with an attractive female? A lot, a lot, and a lot.
Same thing with a girl. If a girl's boyfriend is being driven around every day by an attractive female, or, in another scenario, an attractive female is the boyfriend's boss and she makes excuses to be around him, such as "company meetings/dinners", etc, then it's justified to be paranoid.
Being jealous and paranoid about these things is extremely common. How many girls get jealous and upset if their boyfriend is talking with an attractive female? A lot, a lot, and a lot.
There's a pretty big difference between talking to an attractive girl and being driven around by one every single day. I would be paranoid as well if my girlfriend was hanging around with the same guy all the time, and that guy obviously shows sexual interest in her.
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There's a pretty big difference between talking to an attractive girl and being driven around by one every single day. I would be paranoid as well if my girlfriend was hanging around with the same guy all the time, and that guy obviously shows sexual interest in her.
There isn't as big of a difference as you think. Sure, with the latter, you're around this girl a lot more, but the former could still yield some pretty jealous moods from a guy's girlfriend.
There isn't as big of a difference as you think. Sure, with the latter, you're around this girl a lot more, but the former could still yield some pretty jealous moods from a guy's girlfriend.
That kind of jealousy is petty and selfish. OP actually has a legitimate reason to worry.
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That kind of jealousy is petty and selfish. OP actually has a legitimate reason to worry.
That's fine if you want to think that way, but some people like OP have a reason for being that jealous and worried. No, the situations may not be the same, but it's still a justified jealousy. If it's just a flat out case of "I own you and will dictate who you talk to", then that is definitely selfish.
That's fine if you want to think that way, but some people like OP have a reason for being that jealous and worried. No, the situations may not be the same, but it's still a justified jealousy. If it's just a flat out case of "I own you and will dictate who you talk to", then that is definitely selfish.
I don't understand how a guy talking to a girl/girl talking to a guy and getting mad about it is justified or comparable to OP's situation.
I don't understand how a guy talking to a girl/girl talking to a guy and getting mad about it is justified or comparable to OP's situation.
I didn't mean it that way. I just meant, if someone has been cheated on before, and sees how close their significant other is with an attractive member of the opposite sex, it's okay to be jealous. Jealousy is a part of life, no one should try to hide it or act like it's not "normal".
The problem here is what if he has had bad experienced with a girl cheating on him in the past? I already mentioned it in this thread about my ex and her best friend, but what I didn't mention was that I've been cheated on before. With her being so close to this guy to the point where they leave each other little goofy messages (him calling her his "muffin"), I will definitely be worried and suspicious.
If someone has been cheated on before, they will always be weary of it happening again.
I understand what an effect a bad relationship can have, but you have to overcome it, because your mistrust will pollute future relationships, and it isn't fair to your partner.
Anyone that has a girlfriend would obviously be worried when some guy drives their girlfriend around every day and makes obvious facebook posts about how he wants to be with her.
Same thing with a girl. If a girl's boyfriend is being driven around every day by an attractive female, or, in another scenario, an attractive female is the boyfriend's boss and she makes excuses to be around him, such as "company meetings/dinners", etc, then it's justified to be paranoid.
Being jealous and paranoid about these things is extremely common. How many girls get jealous and upset if their boyfriend is talking with an attractive female? A lot, a lot, and a lot.
There's a pretty big difference between talking to an attractive girl and being driven around by one every single day. I would be paranoid as well if my girlfriend was hanging around with the same guy all the time, and that guy obviously shows sexual interest in her.
There isn't as big of a difference as you think. Sure, with the latter, you're around this girl a lot more, but the former could still yield some pretty jealous moods from a guy's girlfriend.
That kind of jealousy is petty and selfish. OP actually has a legitimate reason to worry.
That's fine if you want to think that way, but some people like OP have a reason for being that jealous and worried. No, the situations may not be the same, but it's still a justified jealousy. If it's just a flat out case of "I own you and will dictate who you talk to", then that is definitely selfish.
I don't understand how a guy talking to a girl/girl talking to a guy and getting mad about it is justified or comparable to OP's situation.
I didn't mean it that way. I just meant, if someone has been cheated on before, and sees how close their significant other is with an attractive member of the opposite sex, it's okay to be jealous. Jealousy is a part of life, no one should try to hide it or act like it's not "normal".