I see what you mean. I know its about me, but In the end its gonna be about them bringing up that subject forever if she says no.
Why does it matter. Why should you be embarrassed or ashamed you had feelings for someone and actually tried to have it go somewhere. Why is this worthy of ragging on someone.
People are less retarded when they're older, don't worry.
I have someone I would love to be with on Valentine's Day, and she would love to be with me too. But circumstances beyond our control will keep us apart this year.
Some of us are married and don't give a **** about valentines day. If you know a married couple who actually cares about valentines day that's two people with marital issues. It might not end in divorce now, or the next year, but eventually. Two people who have made the ultimate commitment to each other but still care about something as petty as valentines day are not going to last. Trust me.
Some of us are married and don't give a **** about valentines day. If you know a married couple who actually cares about valentines day that's two people with marital issues. It might not end in divorce now, or the next year, but eventually. Two people who have made the ultimate commitment to each other but still care about something as petty as valentines day are not going to last. Trust me.
So it's a terrible idea to take a day to show your partner just how much you love them by doing something as simple as buying them flowers. It's such a terrible idea it might cause a divorce. Because, you know, flowers are so insulting.
I don't fully understand why you believe this, Breadlord. I mean, sure, I agree. Valentines day is pretty insignificant and it should by no means be a day where you are obligated to do something nice for your partner, but how is it wrong to do so? Maybe your argument is that if two people truly love each other they shouldn't need a day to prove it, but even then. How is it wrong to take the day as an opportunity to at the very least buy your girl some flowers?
So it's a terrible idea to take a day to show your partner just how much you love them by doing something as simple as buying them flowers. It's such a terrible idea it might cause a divorce. Because, you know, flowers are so insulting.
I don't fully understand why you believe this, Breadlord. I mean, sure, I agree. Valentines day is pretty insignificant and it should by no means be a day where you are obligated to do something nice for your partner, but how is it wrong to do so? Maybe your argument is that if two people truly love each other they shouldn't need a day to prove it, but even then. How is it wrong to take the day as an opportunity to at the very least buy your girl some flowers?
That's exactly my point. As for your question (which basically boils down to "Why not do it anyway?") which do you think is going to be more significant... buying your wife of 3+ years flowers on Valentines Day or buying her flowers on a completely random day with 0 significance whatsoever?
Perhaps my situation is unusual, because the woman I married has similar sentiments to my own (not putting any belief into arbitrary holidays), but I think it's safe to say (for any couple) that surprising your mate with a random act of love is going to be far more meaningful than participating in an arbitrary "holiday of love". I suppose it doesn't hurt to do both if you don't know what your mate wants... but if that's the case you're probably not (or shouldn't be) married in the first place.
So it's a terrible idea to take a day to show your partner just how much you love them by doing something as simple as buying them flowers. It's such a terrible idea it might cause a divorce. Because, you know, flowers are so insulting.
I don't fully understand why you believe this, Breadlord. I mean, sure, I agree. Valentines day is pretty insignificant and it should by no means be a day where you are obligated to do something nice for your partner, but how is it wrong to do so? Maybe your argument is that if two people truly love each other they shouldn't need a day to prove it, but even then. How is it wrong to take the day as an opportunity to at the very least buy your girl some flowers?
No, Its terrible to break down something like love into mere monetary spending. Mere physical gifts.
Some dinky little card and a thing of flowers. Breaking love down to such a thing, how petty is that?
Eh, I guess you're right ( and I completely agree ). I guess I'm looking at it from the partner's perspective. Like, there's people out there who are aware of the insignificance of Valentines day when compared to true love, but then there's others who aren't and feel like if you don't do SOMETHING on that day, it automatically means you don't care for them. But then again if that's how your partner feels it probably isn't worth being with them in the first place.
Exactly. Which is why I think (most of) those marriages don't last in the first place. My wife is my best friend. She understands me like no one else. There is nothing that I keep secret from her. So feeling obligated to give her affection because an arbitrary holiday tells me to just seems utterly ludicrous to me... and I'm skeptical of anyone who doesn't feel the same toward their significant other.
Why does it matter. Why should you be embarrassed or ashamed you had feelings for someone and actually tried to have it go somewhere. Why is this worthy of ragging on someone.
People are less retarded when they're older, don't worry.
Anyway
no I actually have someone to be with on valentine's day. but it's not going to be over-blown special orsome **** likke that
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So it's a terrible idea to take a day to show your partner just how much you love them by doing something as simple as buying them flowers. It's such a terrible idea it might cause a divorce. Because, you know, flowers are so insulting.
I don't fully understand why you believe this, Breadlord. I mean, sure, I agree. Valentines day is pretty insignificant and it should by no means be a day where you are obligated to do something nice for your partner, but how is it wrong to do so? Maybe your argument is that if two people truly love each other they shouldn't need a day to prove it, but even then. How is it wrong to take the day as an opportunity to at the very least buy your girl some flowers?
That's exactly my point. As for your question (which basically boils down to "Why not do it anyway?") which do you think is going to be more significant... buying your wife of 3+ years flowers on Valentines Day or buying her flowers on a completely random day with 0 significance whatsoever?
Perhaps my situation is unusual, because the woman I married has similar sentiments to my own (not putting any belief into arbitrary holidays), but I think it's safe to say (for any couple) that surprising your mate with a random act of love is going to be far more meaningful than participating in an arbitrary "holiday of love". I suppose it doesn't hurt to do both if you don't know what your mate wants... but if that's the case you're probably not (or shouldn't be) married in the first place.
No, Its terrible to break down something like love into mere monetary spending. Mere physical gifts.
Some dinky little card and a thing of flowers. Breaking love down to such a thing, how petty is that?
Commercial holiday.
Eh, I guess you're right ( and I completely agree ). I guess I'm looking at it from the partner's perspective. Like, there's people out there who are aware of the insignificance of Valentines day when compared to true love, but then there's others who aren't and feel like if you don't do SOMETHING on that day, it automatically means you don't care for them. But then again if that's how your partner feels it probably isn't worth being with them in the first place.
Exactly. Which is why I think (most of) those marriages don't last in the first place. My wife is my best friend. She understands me like no one else. There is nothing that I keep secret from her. So feeling obligated to give her affection because an arbitrary holiday tells me to just seems utterly ludicrous to me... and I'm skeptical of anyone who doesn't feel the same toward their significant other.
Not really serious
And meanwhile all the kids at my school are going to be drinking and having sex. How sad.