I recently joined a new school, I made a few friends and everything is going well, but when I say this girl is cheating in a test, she starts talking to me like a female dog. All I said is, cheating is bad. She starts rambling on about YOU DONT KNOW ME, and YOU HAVE ATTITUDE. Now she hates me even though I forgive her and wanted to make it up by giving some help. She and her friend hates me now, although I couldn't care less, it makes life difficult because I know that people want to make me acknowledge they hate me by doing petty things.
The main problem is that she sits on the same table, and she has friends who will hate me as well. They keep talking about how rude I am, although I wasn't the one shouting or talking about them, I want to ignore them but it's kinda hard when she is always near you. The main thing is, I have realized how much easier it is to make enemies rather than friends.
Though it's funny. They go out of their way to "make you feel bad" when that's just wasted effort they could have put elsewhere. Glad to see where their priorities are... If you do buy into their behavior that will give them gratification. Although it's easier said than done, you might as well just ignore it. It'll cause you to waste your own time/effort on them.
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"It's not enough you have the will to care. What are you going to do to show it?"
And the thing is, they aren't clever at all, they are utterly stupid in every subject, I don't even care that I am being rude because its true. So I have no idea why they treat me badly when they are the ones that can't do a simple equation.
When You Talk Whit Logic, You Can Say Things That People Don't Wanna Hear, Thats Why The Will Hate You, Because They Aren't Enough Mature For Accept It.
Even If World Says That You're Wrong Or Even Insane (Like Some Ex-Admin Here Said About Me Some Weeks Ago ( A_A) ) You Should Do What It's Correct. Someday Your Actions Will Prove That You Were Right
When I Was At School Everybody Called Me Weirdo And Insane But When I Graduated I Got The Best Score On My Statal Test, Also I Graduated With Honors Due My Grade Tesis -About Aliens, Eh?- That Moved To Second Place 3 Years Of Hard Working Made By Those Who Called Me "Weirdo".
Now They Hate Me More Than Ever, But Actually It Feels Good, Lol
Nobody likes to have someone point out when they are doing something wrong. And rather then admit that, it is easier to become defensive and make it about you. And always strength in number so she feels the need to get as many people to wrongfully judge you too just to make herself feel better. You definitely were the better person in trying to forgive and move on, she is not ready to face her own demons.
Unless you two have the same friends, you should ignore it. You were right about cheating being bad, so they have no reason to act like you commited a crime. Ignore them, even though it can be hard.
But DON'T talk trash about them with your friends. When they hear that the situation could get worse.
I ignore, and treat them as a neutral person. Not as an enemy.
You could make everyone in the world hate you, but you're never going to be liked by everybody.
That's the truth. It sucks but you've gotta accept it.
I really feel bad for you. I used to be teased for my colour (my background is Indian) but I ignored the people who did it and they eventually stopped. It's really hard to ignore idiots like that, but make an effort to do so.
Seriously, don't let it get to you. It's difficult to make friends when you're in a new area, and getting someone to dislike you on your first day is somewhat discouraging. There's more fish in the pond, go find someone else to make friends with. If really necessary, see if you can ask the teacher to move you away from that girl, most teachers are more than willing to accommodate.
As for the entire teasing thing, there are ways to deal with it without it getting to you. I like to take everything people say to me as a joke, but you probably have something else. Maybe you could even try being friendly to them (instead of neutral, which could be interpreted as passive aggressive)?
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Such if life. Most people can't appreciate you or your qualities once they home in on the one little thing that makes them hate you. Then again, more people than not aren't exactly up to the standards of intelligence, statistically speaking.
That's the truth. It sucks but you've gotta accept it.
I really feel bad for you. I used to be teased for my colour (my background is Indian) but I ignored the people who did it and they eventually stopped. It's really hard to ignore idiots like that, but make an effort to do so.
Ah, my background is also indian, but instead of getting bullied for it, I was proud and I eventually influenced many people, and actually became quite respected in my old school.
EDIT: I have actually made this relationship come back into neutrality, as when in music, our group was completely and utterly failing at making music, I was the only one who made a nice rhythmic tune which ended pretty well, now I guess she doesn't hate me anymore, as she had seen I am not a hateful person.
Ah, my background is also indian, but instead of getting bullied for it, I was proud and I eventually influenced many people, and actually became quite respected in my old school.
EDIT: I have actually made this relationship come back into neutrality, as when in music, our group was completely and utterly failing at making music, I was the only one who made a nice rhythmic tune which ended pretty well, now I guess she doesn't hate me anymore, as she had seen I am not a hateful person.
I was bullied in Grade 2 but eventually the kids stopped that year. I was very big in my school cause where I live, elementary (grade) school goes up to Grade 7. I was a pretty popular person in terms of respect but that's another story.
Also, good for you. I hope that girl doesn't bother you again, for your sake.
I was bullied in Grade 2 but eventually the kids stopped that year. I was very big in my school cause where I live, elementary (grade) school goes up to Grade 7. I was a pretty popular person in terms of respect but that's another story.
Also, good for you. I hope that girl doesn't bother you again, for your sake.
The main problem is that she sits on the same table, and she has friends who will hate me as well. They keep talking about how rude I am, although I wasn't the one shouting or talking about them, I want to ignore them but it's kinda hard when she is always near you. The main thing is, I have realized how much easier it is to make enemies rather than friends.
'slife.
You could make everyone in the world hate you, but you're never going to be liked by everybody.
Though it's funny. They go out of their way to "make you feel bad" when that's just wasted effort they could have put elsewhere. Glad to see where their priorities are... If you do buy into their behavior that will give them gratification. Although it's easier said than done, you might as well just ignore it. It'll cause you to waste your own time/effort on them.
"It's not enough you have the will to care. What are you going to do to show it?"
Your actions will speak louder than theirs.
"It's not enough you have the will to care. What are you going to do to show it?"
And the thing is, they aren't clever at all, they are utterly stupid in every subject, I don't even care that I am being rude because its true. So I have no idea why they treat me badly when they are the ones that can't do a simple equation.
When You Talk Whit Logic, You Can Say Things That People Don't Wanna Hear, Thats Why The Will Hate You, Because They Aren't Enough Mature For Accept It.
Even If World Says That You're Wrong Or Even Insane (Like Some Ex-Admin Here Said About Me Some Weeks Ago ( A_A) ) You Should Do What It's Correct. Someday Your Actions Will Prove That You Were Right
When I Was At School Everybody Called Me Weirdo And Insane But When I Graduated I Got The Best Score On My Statal Test, Also I Graduated With Honors Due My Grade Tesis -About Aliens, Eh?- That Moved To Second Place 3 Years Of Hard Working Made By Those Who Called Me "Weirdo".
Now They Hate Me More Than Ever, But Actually It Feels Good, Lol
I ignore, and treat them as a neutral person. Not as an enemy.
That's the truth. It sucks but you've gotta accept it.
I really feel bad for you. I used to be teased for my colour (my background is Indian) but I ignored the people who did it and they eventually stopped. It's really hard to ignore idiots like that, but make an effort to do so.
Seriously, don't let it get to you. It's difficult to make friends when you're in a new area, and getting someone to dislike you on your first day is somewhat discouraging. There's more fish in the pond, go find someone else to make friends with. If really necessary, see if you can ask the teacher to move you away from that girl, most teachers are more than willing to accommodate.
As for the entire teasing thing, there are ways to deal with it without it getting to you. I like to take everything people say to me as a joke, but you probably have something else. Maybe you could even try being friendly to them (instead of neutral, which could be interpreted as passive aggressive)?
Focus on your studies, do what you love, and you'll have a fulfilling life.
It's going to hurt for them in the long run, trust me.
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Ah, my background is also indian, but instead of getting bullied for it, I was proud and I eventually influenced many people, and actually became quite respected in my old school.
EDIT: I have actually made this relationship come back into neutrality, as when in music, our group was completely and utterly failing at making music, I was the only one who made a nice rhythmic tune which ended pretty well, now I guess she doesn't hate me anymore, as she had seen I am not a hateful person.
I was bullied in Grade 2 but eventually the kids stopped that year. I was very big in my school cause where I live, elementary (grade) school goes up to Grade 7. I was a pretty popular person in terms of respect but that's another story.
Also, good for you. I hope that girl doesn't bother you again, for your sake.
Same right here.